It’s Friday. A day that many of us look forward to. A chance for people to wind down the week and prepare for the weekend. A time to ENJOY. But not for everyone…

8.5 Million Jobs have been LOST since the start of the economic downturn

Unemployment as of February is at 9.7%

Roughly 14.9 Million people are out of work

Some people may be finding themselves included in these numbers on this day. As a manager, supervisor or an HR representative, you may be the one to inform them.

The numbers are disheartening. More so if you can put faces and names to the numbers. Increase that feeling when you can relate those numbers to people you personally know and console going through it.

It’s nothing personal. It’s just business.

A common phrase. An easy cop-out to dismiss ourselves from the thing that is actually happening on the other side of the desk that you sit. Someone’s life has being changed and in their own world ~ shattered. But it’s OK. They’ll be OK. Won’t they? I mean, how you can empathize, when it’s not you. I get it, doing so helps make it easier to look at things as just a number. We can’t attach ourselves to every situation. Doing so would make it impossible to cope with the job you hold.

Watching “Up in the Air” (Trailer) made me think about my own situation as well as many other professionals within our field that have been faced with giving the bad news. It’s not your, my, or our fault. I get it. But so many think it’s easy to focus on the numbers. To use that as a precursor to explain the situation to the employee as if it will make them feel “okee dokee, thanks I will be ok.” To chalk layoffs up to budgets. Decrease operational lines to save the factories’. To look only at the bottom line…

The Bottom Line

The movie and its true-to-life lay-offs only drove a point deeper. (Prepare yourself for a long-grammatical incorrect sentence) With the talk of “the traditional resume is dead,” “social media will replace typical recruiting practices,” to the entire approach of technology overstepping and replacing the way we have typically approached employee relations and business in the workplace… the bottom line is this:

Statistics cannot be used to show sincerity.

You cannot replace a human interaction with a transaction that is inhumane

Think about that as I leave you with the following. The words of an individual being laid off in the movie, which was played by the actual unemployed. If I had the clip it would be more powerful than the words on the page.

How do you sleep at night, man?
Huh?
How's your family?
They sleeping well at night?
Electricity still on?
Heat still on, refrigerator full of food?
Gas tank full of gas?
Going to Chuck E. Cheese this weekend or something?
Not me.
No, my kids,
We're not gonna do anything.

What do you think? As difficult as it may be, I’d like to hear your thoughts, stories, frustrations and worries. I think that in times like this, sharing is almost as good as medicine.

Thoughts on Up in the Air ~ Adversity (Video)


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It amazes me how many people despise HR

Be careful who your messing with (1:20)?

HR, We’re confident and it’s a way of life (30 sec)!

I’m a real man… what about you?

What would you rather be doing in this economy… oh so many choices?

You just got to laugh sometimes (we all know HR has the most crazy cat people)!

Many people have their own opinion of Leadership and who should or should not be considered a leader. This also is true for the “who” should be developed and kept out of leadership. Of course I have my own opinions (that’s why I write). In listening to HR Happy Hour – Episode 35 “The Leadership Show”, I agreed and disagreed with many opinions. That’s the great thing about an opinion is that everyone has one. The even better thing about an opinion is either you can CHOOSE to agree/disagree and learn or question your own predetermined beliefs on any topic.

The problem with a “definition…”

…is that there are so many definitions. No different in defining leadership. Leadership has become such a trendy topic that it is used in resumes, company programs, webinars, and interventions. Often I hear the thought that “We are all leaders” or “You can be a leader.” Umm ok. I do not firmly believe this, but I do believe that many people (given the right framework, personality and personal will) have a potential to lead.

Some definitions of Leadership

Here are a few of the current and well respected ideas/definitions of leadership from people much smarter than I.

Function: noun 1 : the office or position of a leader; 2 : capacity to lead 3 : the act or an instance of leading — Merriam-Webster On-line

My definition of a leader . . . is a man who can persuade people to do what they don’t want to do, or do what they’re too lazy to do, and like it. Harry S. Truman, 33^rd President

The definition of leadership is influence. John Maxwell

Leadership is the art to of influencing and directing people in such a way that will win their obedience, confidence, respect and loyal cooperation in achieving common objectives.” — U. S. Air Force

The feminine leadership style emphasizes cooperation over competition; intuition as well as rational thinking in problem solving, team structures where power and influence are shared within the group . . . interpersonal competence; and participative decision making.  Marilyn Loden

“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” — John Quincy Adams

“I am looking for a lot of men who have an infinite capacity to not know what can’t be done.” — Henry Ford

“A manager takes people where they want to go. A great leader takes people where they don’t necessarily want to go but ought to.”  — Rosalyn Carter

Not a Pretender: Now I don’t pretend to be as smart as these people and I’m pretty smart (Just talk with me and you’ll agree ha, I’m joking)! I haven’t written any New York Times best sellers and yet to become a historical figure, having my own thoughts and quotes be used as a cornerstone to measure or carve out concepts and ideas. However, I have had my share of experiences. What my experience tells me is that CONTEXT is everything. Leadership should be considered and dependent on the situation, environment, organization and people. It is subjective.

The beauty and problem with a definition, is that it often attempts to lock terms, people, places, events, and concepts in time; trapping the idea from being able to evolve. If we treated people like this, then they would be doing one thing and only one thing for the rest of their lives. Not cool. We as humans evolve. We change and adjust with our environment. Some things in our lives are concrete but overall from the time we were born we have lived a life of chaotic change. How weird would it be if we did not evolve… kind of like a baby head with an adult body (no one would ever ask you out).

Evolution: Leadership is an “Idea”

Humans evolve. Because the practice of Leadership is so closely aligned with our humanity, the definition and idea of it must also evolve with us. In that, Leadership is an idea. Our ideas evolve and change.

Leadership… a Belief?

To some Leadership is a belief. They practice and perfect the way they present their belief. Preach on whether you are born with it or can learn to be. They focus on individual criteria and competency tests. The problem with a belief is that beliefs often do not change. They are sometimes locked like stone into our psyche – like religion or politics.

Bottom Line: One Size will not fit all.

Jennifer V Miller has a nice summary of free resources available on Leadership so you can review and formulate your own idea. However, we all have our own beliefs, an idea on what a Leader is and what they should be. Regardless of how you may feel, be willing to engage, listen and research. Be willing to challenge yourself and evolve. Before any of us were experts at anything we were idiots on everything. Don’t be an idiot!

So what do you think, any ideas or hardcore beliefs?

My intent was not to give a definition but to simply discuss that there is not necessarily a right or wrong. But I could be right… or maybe I’m wrong… or… never mind.

Dilbert: No longer relevant since everyone has PTO now

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